Sunday, 7 August 2011

Fawlty Towers and Farewells.

The last post.  As anticipated from my spare room.

We arrived at our motel near the airport last night to discover......it had been shut down?! There was a strange message on the gate about being fully booked for the foreseeable future?! It was all very odd. It also meant we had to find somewhere else to stay! Being near the airport meant there were lots of motels about and the first one we tried could take us - brilliant. We booked in and had some time to kill before meeting to eat. Perfect - time for a shower!

Jack and I went down for a drink before dinner. Some of the team had had the same idea, gradually in dribs and drabs everyone arrived. There was a chilled feel to the evening, we were done. You know a team has gelled well together when they are able to laugh at themselves, and each other - we did plenty of that!. We ordered our food and some time later went in to eat. The meal became a comedy of errors - they were clearly not geared up for the unexpected 15 English!  They brought food we'd ordered and food we hadn't! They brought the wrong combinations of food on the plate and some food they simply never brought! Some food arrived 3 hours late - suffice to say we paid half the bill. It wasn't quite the 'last supper' we'd intended but it was fun and good to all be together. It was also an early farewell to Kev and Jess who, unlike us, weren't getting up at 5.30am because they were flying later on a flight bound for Tanzania. Nice.

If there were Awards for the team, this is what they'd get:

Rob - Unassuming Leader Award  + Best Ugandan Accent Award!
Denise - 'Behind every great man there has to be a great woman' Award. She is that woman.
Alice - Sweetest Nicest Girl Award - she could join my family any day.
Sim - Memory Maker Award - songs in the bar, in the bus & at Bula - priceless
Jess P - Compassionate Carer Award - demonstrates such love for the children we met
Mike - Hard Grafter Award - don't mention the fence....
Jess F - Works Hard, Plays Hard Award - every team should have a Jess - such fun!
Kev - Bit of a Softie really Award - despite the rumours he's not scary + Eat for England Award!
John - Anchor Man Award - this man is a rock, I've known him 2 weeks and trust him implicitly.
Julie - Mary Poppins Award - whatever you need she has it in her bag!
Josh - Most likely to be Famous Award - creative and ever so slightly enigmatic!
Jacob - Happy Snapper Award - his camera is like a third hand
Jack - Barefooted, Hat wearing, Footballer Award - often with sunglasses too!
Zoe - Sleepy Giver Award - she didn't bring home any of the shoes she took. Needed more sleep though!
Me? I'm just the blogger!

It's been a fabulous team to be part of.

Our flight was late taking off so we finally arrived back home at 8.15 tonight. We were all separated on the flight so lots of time for book reading and film watching. I watched 'Water for Elephants' the final line of which said "I'm not running away, I'm coming home" ......   and Arthur. The two characters from Naomi's book say 'We walk a little taller and shine a little brighter because we have shared the adventure together'. I get that.

So that's it then. I'm all blogged out. I have loved writing of our adventure and getting it down in words for myself but I have loved sharing it with you too and have been overwhelmed by the number of people reading it. Thank you for sharing our journey - it really has meant a lot to me. Sharing the experience with Jack and Zoe has been brilliant. At the craft market yesterday I bought each of us an elephant - a reminder of this adventure we had together.  So will we return? Jack & Zoe think so, I'd love to because I left something behind........ a piece of my heart.

Helen hopes and dreams.  xx

For me the experience was more than I had hoped and dreamed off

Saturday, 6 August 2011

Football, Frustration & Family

Ah, so I got the football thing a bit wrong! This won't surprise those of you that know me!! The team that Jack & Sim had a training session with are equivalent to say....Colchester. That said the boys had a fab time. A training session with a Ugandan team, coached by a man that used to play for Uganda. Jack held his own and looked brill out there - I was so proud of him! He was dripping by the end of it, imagine playing in this heat!!!  It was the icing on the cake for him and made him keen to get home for friendlies and pre-season training. The coach would have taken Jack & Sim to his academy for a day today but we just couldn't make it work - next time? This is what Rob is so brilliant at - meeting people on each trip, like Charles our driver who manages the team, then linking up with them and making things happen. He will maintain the link and re-establish the contact next year. As always with these folk, at the end of the session there were speeches of thanks. Rob gave the team a kit for which they were so very grateful - Stow Falcons are now represented in Uganda! Their appreciation for such a simple act of generosity was humbling.

This country has its frustrations. At dinner yesterday I chatted to Alex (I'm not always sure who people are or where they've appeared from?!) he talked of his country's corruption, its president who is in his 6th term of power (each being 5 years), and of the frustration of all that goes with this. These people have no alternative but to accept that this is how life is. Frustrating.  Charles the football manager and our driver, Jack tells me, gets approached weekly to play professionally, but it doesn't pay enough and he wants to pay for his daughter, Lucky, to be educated. Frustration.

Last night we had dinner at BULA, with no electricity!!  Afterwards the children sang and danced for us. Songs of pride about their country, songs of welcome to us, songs about working hard and having goals and......those amazing bottom moving dances!!! They obviously learn it from an early age?!  I chatted to a couple of the boys, one who will work hard to try to be a dentist and one who wanted to know about where I live and my family. I spoke fondly of my brothers in Wales & London and my mum nearby. I wasn't sure if it was ok to ask him about brothers and sisters, I did.  He told me he is a twin and he last saw his twin in 2010, he couldn't remember when he last saw his sister.......... I couldn't imagine. I asked him if this was sad. "Sad? Noooo!" he said as if I'd asked something strange. Again, an acceptance that this is just how life is. I'll see both my brothers and of course, my mum over the next month. I will hug them all for just a little longer than usual. 

As we walked back to the hostel Jack was giving a small boy a piggy back. They were chatting, then Jack realised the boy had stopped talking, Jack felt tears running down his neck. The boy was crying, perhaps life like this isn't always easy to accept.

So my norm seems to be waking at 4.30am! Singing again at 5.30!!  Today we have been to a craft market - oh my!!! We spent all our money and borrowed more besides!! It was wonderful!! We're just having lunch (Red Chilli!) before we leave for Entebbe where we'll stay overnight before catching the plane tomorrow, we're nearly home!  I think my last blog will be from my spare room at home - one last one xx

Friday, 5 August 2011

Never Lose Hope

Well, the epic journey was completed in 9 hours - 3 hours quicker than our journey there! We left our heavenly lodge after breakfast with beautiful birds collecting crumbs from the table, mongoose by our feet and  a family of wart hogs near by! Our journey was broken up by a quick stop off at the equator again, a stop for our packed lunch and another flat tyre!! Interesting that we all adopted our stereotypical roles for the flat tyre episode. The men jumped into action like a formula 1 pit stop team, the boys threw stones at targets and the girls........chatted!!

I spent all morning watching Africa. I considered this Ugandan life compared to mine. Lots to think about. They bring up their children to be fiercely independent. I've seen children that look no older than 6 or 7 looking after their younger siblings, walking with them beside busy roads, carrying them on their backs if necessary. They bring up their children to work hard, I've lost count of the number of times I've seen children collecting water and carrying the heavy load home. The girls at Kiwi come home from school and do the washing and cook dinner. Imagine me coming home from work and the dinner being cooked and the washing done!! A more likely scenario is facebook, x box and "what times dinner?" !! 

Perhaps what has struck me the most though is their pace of life, they do life slowly. They watch the world go by. The men sit by the road on bikes of mopeds and chat and watch. The women gather in groups with the young children and chat and watch. They don't text, email, facebook or msn, just simply chat! they model this to their children. Perhaps some parts of their lives are enviable?

One town we passed through seemed like 'Coffin City'!!  There were coffins for sale everywhere! It was a stark reminder that whoever we are, whatever our circumstances, what ever we have, 2 things are certain we live, we die and the wheels on the bus go round and round. There's a start date and and end date and of course the bit in the middle. This trip reminds me that how we do the bit in the middle that's important; the things we do, the choices we make, the relationships we build and for me, may be not you, our response to God.  My friend died at 33, my dad at 61, lives cut too short. I am resolved to live mine with hopes and dreams but most importantly I am resolved to take steps to make those hopes and dreams a reality! Nothing happens unless you make it....

As we passed towns and villages we often saw slogans on buildins or cars, things like God is Able, but the one that stuck out for me today was "Never Lose Hope" (actually it said never loose hope - but we're surely all allowed a typo or two?!?!). Never lose hope. There have been times when I've thought the situation here is without hope, that this country and even this continent are with out hope and yet I've met people that have hope and are bringing hope. People like Benedicta, bring hope to orphaned children, people like 'coach' bringing hope in the face of corruption, theft and poverty to a community, people like Rob & Denise who are bringing hope. Hope to the orphans, the under priveledged, the poor and the needy. These are people that have hope, have dreams and are choosing to take steps to make their hopes and dreams a reality.
Never lose hope.

We arrived at our hostel last night....oh my!! It's basic! Having left the comfort of the lodge this morning this was a jolt back to reality. In another circumstance I may have protested! But I have over these last two weeks seen how folk live day in and day out, I could live like this for two nights - it's all part of the adventure!! We ate out then slept. Our accomodation is a hostel for girls who are in school or college. At 5am they began singing - like singing I've never heard before. If I could set my alarm to wake me to that sound every day I would, beautiful.

This morning we have visted Bula, the orphanage I hadn't yet seen. We were shown around and then played with the few children that were't in school, simple ball games. I have yet to see any toys anywhere? I even saw a child today playing with a stick and a hoop....We had lots of fun with piggy in the middle and blamed Jess & Kev entirely (as Zoe's middle school PE teachers) for her lack of ball skills!! Fun times.

And now? Now we have just been spolit with lunch at Pauls and as has become the norm I've managed to borrow a laptop & internet! It feels a bit like we're done and have almost begun our journey home, a few more bits to do, another visit to Kiwi, a craft market and tonight! Tonight the boys are joining Charles' (one of our drivers) football team for training. Apparently this team are just below the Ugandan national side (if I've understood correctly?!) Jack doesn't even have trainers!!!

The story's nearly over....thanks for reading it xx

Wednesday, 3 August 2011

The lion sleeps tonight.......

After breakfast yesterday we swam and layed in the sun whilst over looking the vast lake - quite, quite heavenly!

At 3pm some off us took a boat ride on the lake. It was beautiful. We drew along side water buffalo resting at the waters edge, elephants grazing on the lush graze growing by the lake, birds of every description, lizards large enough to see from 50m away and hippos as near as 5 metres away. Hippos have instantly become my favourite animal - they lay in the water sun bathing all day - idylic!!  There are 11 villages within the reserve all of which fish to make a living. As we passed one, the men were heading out for the night in their boats to fish. I wondered if their work, their life, were less stressful than mine?! It certainly looked like it as they paddled off over the horizon........until we were told hippos are their greatest threat. If a mother feels her baby is in danger she will attack and literally drown the occupants of the boat. Perhaps our stresses are just different. Having seen some difficult scenes during the week, this trip today reminded me that this also is an amazing, beautiful country - we try to recreate its beauty and wonder in the UK with our wild life parks etc - we miss by a mile!!

It was an immediate turn around as we headed off on our lion hunt, we searched and search for hours..... all in vain :-(  I secretly hoped that as we returned to our lodge that we'd have a repeat of our elephant experience and come across a huge pride.....not so.  I'll just have to come again some time........

So to today...... the epic journey back! We're heading back for a few days to revisit both orphanages, have a meal with Paul who we worked with at the school in the first week and then head home. I'm not sure how much blogging I'll manage from now........ xx

Are we nearly there yet?

Well, we managed to leave yesterday morning at 7.15. I hope I get to stay at Red Chilli again sometime. I think we traveled for about an hour before the roads became slightly less pot holed, just slightly!  We passed through town after town, village after village all looking the same. Folks selling there goods along the road side and behind them ram shackled houses of rough brick or mud and tin roofs.We traveled for hours and hours and the story was the same. This trip has opened my eyes to the enormity of this country, to Africa and to its poverty in a way that my friends experiences, documentaries and relief programmes never have. Seeing is believing.

After a few hours we stopped for breakfast...........at the equator!!  How cool is that!! We took the obligatory photos! Then we were back in the mini bus for more of the journey.

"One of the pleasantest things in the world is going on a journey" - William Hazitt. Not sure who William is, but I agree. The long journey today gave loads of time for reflection, reading, listening to ipods and Sims guitar playing!  There's been so much to take in over the last week or so. I'm also very much enjoying just being the passenger, not being responsible! The biggest decision I've had to make all day is what to eat - perfect!

Our journey took much longer than anticipated with food stops, photo stops & flat tyres! We arrived at our destination in Queen Elizabeth Park at 7.30 - 12 hours after leaving Red Chilli!!  We were shown to our beautiful, rustic lodges before dinner.  Ah, a shower that is more than a dribble. Ah, mosquito nets around the room not the bed. Ah, silence........... I slept well!!

Til........5.30 and our early morning call!! We were off on our game drive with Musa at 6.30. Jack, Zoe & I sat in the back of the bus. The excitement in the bus was palpable!! What would we see?

Very soon we saw 2 elephants grazing by some bushes, they were slightly hidden but what a fantastic sight. We drove, I guess, for 3 hours and saw buffalo, hyena, cob (sp?), & wart hog. We so wanted to see lions but they evaded us today. There was a sense of disappointment in the van as we headed back to Mweya Lodge for breakfast - we hadn't had a really impressive sighting. Then....we spotted another elephant, and another, and another.........we'd stumbled across an entire family! There must have been 25-30 of them all right beside the road and in the road!! it was so incredibly exciting. There were all sorts of sizes, one tiny one - Musa said he'd only be about a week old!! How many times have I see elephants in zoos, wild life parks, circuses even and yet nothing compared to this experience - seeing them together in their herd in the wild, right there in front of me!! It was amazing. And I was sharing it with Jack & Zoe at the back of the bus - this moment was precious, this moment we'd lived together and could never, ever be taken away - priceless.

Everyone was on such a high as we came in for breakfast. As I sat at the table, still elated from the elephant experience, with bright yellow birds in the greenery above me, blue lizards climbing around me, the vast lake stretching out before me and my children beside me I nearly, for the millionth time, cried! This time because I am so incredibly happy.

There's more to come - a river boat trip at 3pm and another game drive tonight - I'll keep you posted!!  xx

Monday, 1 August 2011

So, so tired!!

I'm soooooooo tired! The combination of not sleeping, getting up early and manual work has caught up with me today!  We managed to leave by 8.20 this morning. Some of us headed out to Kiwi orphanage and others went to Bula, the orphanage Jack visited yesterday. He went there again today and Zoe and I went back to Kiwi.

When we arrived some of the girls were ready to leave for school. They walk there by themselves. Today Jess, Jess, Zoe and I walked hand in hand with them, We walked through the slum where homes are mud huts or shed like buildings with corragated iron roofs. We jumped trenches, crossed a small rickety bridge, walked passed a dump and then dropped the younger girls at nursery and the older girls at school. This is a million miles away from home.  Us four white girls felt conspicuous and more vulnerable without the children with us on the return journey.

Once back at Kiwi we set to work decorating. My last three decorating experiences at home were my lovely lounge 2 years ago, with its fancy feature papered wall and new lights, Jacks bedroom last year and Kev & Alis house during a work party one evening. This decorating experience bears absolutely no resemblance. Here we are decorating 'rooms' with crumbling walls, lizards jumping out when we moved furniture, a light bulb hangs precariously, the rafters are all exposed, these are more like out buildings. However, we worked together and gave Benedictas (think I called her Bernadeta before?!) room a coat of paint. Josh & Zo painted Minnie Mouse & Pluto on the wall in the wall in the girls room! We also tackled the boys room. I know lots of farmers that really do have out buildings in better condition than this 'room'. But you know, once we'd painted, stencilled stars and planets & Josh added a fantastic rocket we had some how turned it into a boys room! He loved it, as did the girls with theirs. Zoe painted flowers and butterflies around Benny's door frame - she cried!!

Some of the lads spent much of the day erecting a fence for Benny. They dug holes, and used posts made of tree branches/trunks. They worked incredibly hard with basic tools and in very hot conditions. Africa it appears can be frustrating. The fence looked brilliant and served its purpose but when Benny returned (hours after having to go out for 5 minutes!) she said a water pipe had to be moved to the other side of the fence and half the fence had to be removed. It was disheartening and dimoralising. Communication across the cultures is tricky!

This afternoon, Zoe, Jess, Jess & I took another walk in search of a baby!! The knitting club at school had made squares which had been sewn into a blanket. They gave it to me in assembly at the end of term and asked me to pass it on to a baby in Uganda. We didn't have to go far. We tried to explain and showed the mum a picture of the group who'd made it. She was so very grateful and I was very proud of some children in England who had given their time to make this small difference to a family in the heart of Africa - Well done you lot! I have pictures to show you!!

I flagged by mid afternoon and am sure I'll sleep well tonight?!

Tomorrow we have a couple of days off.  Many, many years ago my friend Janet bought me a book called "These things I will do" - in it you write down things you want to do or accomplish and the date on which you decide. Theres a place to fill in when you've done it too - like an official Bucket List! I love my book. In it there are things that are relatively easy to do, like take my kids to see Lion King - that got ticked off 6 years ago. Some are harder and have taken a long time to achieve like "Become a teacher" but got ticked off in 2008. Some aren't yet acheived like "Buy an old cottage"!  But tomorrow I get to tick off "Go on Safari" - Yahhhh!!  I am soooooooooo excited!  This is the bit I have saved up for myself. Musa who has been linked with Possibilites for a few years and who is Robs 'man on the ground' here in Uganda has been driving us around all week in his taxi bus. He is also a Safari Driver and so he is taking us!!!  I can't tell you how excited I am about this and of course about sharing it with Jack & Zoe........ Will try to post.

So thats us for now all up to date - thanks for reading. Please excuse the awful spelling, grammar & punctuation - I have to do this quickly as others are always waiting!!  A final thought today......"Your life loses its true meaning when material possessions become the content of your life"  xx

6 days shall you labour and on the 7th........

Ah, I get it, there’s no electricity every other day!! No internet last night….this is yesterday…..

And on the seventh day God rested! Great idea God, a day of rest – we’ll take that!  Today was a lovely chilled day.

First thing some of us went to church. My two actually got up at 7.30am in order to go to church!! What’s that all about?!  Church was great. We queued outside to get in, and when the doors opened hundreds and hundreds of us filed into the auditorium. It must have held 2000 people. I loved the fact that here in the middle of Africa, in the heart of Uganda we were worshiping the same God that my church at home would be worshipping – even with some of the same songs. I missed my home church family a little bit and remembered my small group praying for me before this trip. They prayed we’d stay well – check! They prayed that this group of volunteers would gel well together and be effective during our time together – check! They prayed that I wouldn’t feel lonely in a crowd – check, not once – envious occaisionally maybe, life should be done holding hands with someone…..   I’m so grateful to God for so much. As my mind wondered during the 45 minute sermon(!!) my mind went back to the slum school I’d visited yesterday. I think that if Jesus walked on earth today, that’s where he’s be, walking amongst the slums, reaching out to those in need, making a  difference to those he came across…… That’s what Possibilities is endeavouring to do.

The rest of the day was lovely, chilled and restful. Jack headed off to another orphanage with Rob & Sim for a couple of hours. Rob wanted to see how the children were doing. They took the local taxi system – boda boda!! This is a moped!  I have seen one of these with a mum and her two children in front of her and then another child in front of the driver!! 5 people on a moped!!  At the orphanage Jack and Sim played football once again with the children…..on concrete in bare feet!

Zoe and I spent a good few hours chatting together, no subject untouched. Precious moments.  I ‘interviewed’ her for the blog!!  Here goes…..

Me: How’s Africa Zo?
Zoe: Oh no I’m not very good at interviews!   Hot
Me: mmmmmmmmm anything else?
Zoe: What are you writing I only said HOT!
Me: Best bit so far?
Zoe: People keep asking me that! I don’t know, some bits have got to me more than others. Best bit? I don’t know – it’s all so different.
Me: Is there one moment you would keep hold of forever?
Zoe: What from Africa?
Me: Yes from Africa!!! I’m putting that down!!
Zoe: When we were at the community school and little Moses fell asleep on my lap and all the other kids were crowding round and poking my white skin or..
Me: hang on!
Zoe: Just after the girls at the orphanage had seen their newly decorated room and the others had left but one girl was left in the room. She was dancing and singing ‘Thank you, Thank you’
Me: Nice food?
Zoe: Sometimes. The red Chilli food is nice. The food the ladies cook isn’t! My chicken yesterday was hair and bone!!
Me: Nice! In 7 words describe your experience so far
Zoe: Very different from how I was expecting.
Me: How?
Zoe: Dunno!

And that was Sunday. Apparently we are to be out by 8am tomorrow in order for some of us to go back to Kiwi to decorate again and put up a fence whilst the others go to the orphanage Jack visited yesterday to do some cleaning. 8am!!!!

xx